Crisis

Well, to begin with one of the cause of crisis is in crISIS itself, it is quiet conspicuous. The world is in so many crises where can one even begin? I would talk of what is in our control. The emotional, mental, physical crisis.

It is no news that, when we are at our best, the things we do are the best and that is exactly how one becomes useful. Do not own an NGO? No big deal! Can not collect enough for charity? No big deal. But not having time for yourself? Not really your fault.

Even though it is not our fault, not being able to take care of our own self would mean not being able to give. And that is sad. That is the real crisis. Like the old age saying goes charity begins at home. Home meaning people living in it, and that would be me?!

Like these sayings, thoughts, proverbs etc… we know lot, but how much of it are we really using? How much do we really remember? How much do we really apply? Not much, not until a breakdown do we have an “oh snap!” moment that brings sense to the whole drama or sometimes a charade. Procrastination can work every where else but not on the body. It is a state of crisis, not being able to give time, money, love, encouragement, happiness, bliss to our own self.

It is a crisis to be living in past, to be living in future and wasting the present. It is a crisis to give time to everything but to yourself. Letting loose is not a luxury, should not be! It is nature and nature is not wrong. Until you love yourself you can not love anyone else – that is a serious crisis.

Talk about love and there are people with true love and some with a series of bad relationships. It is not the victim’s fault that they get cheated on. But can one be that negligent and unaware of their partner that they did not see it coming? Honestly, no one is. It is just the fear of being rejected, being lonely that holds them back not negligence. In a way investing in such a relationship is like deceiving yourself. It is never easy, but won’t it help to hit the eject button now than on a later stage.

I mean, when ever you know or feel it – allow yourself to be at peace and give it up immediately. Toxin is good for nothing. There is no need to go through the emotional, mental and at times physical pain. What ever the state, which ever the crisis, love your self and be your self. That is what we have been taught and that is what we need to remember.

Crises always erupt where there is lack of love and compassion.

My whole life…

My Favorite: What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.


 

I was born at my grandma’s home. We lived there for two long years until we moved into a new city. I love her, I adore her and I have even written a post about her being my personal hero.

But sadly really sad as it is, after those two years and for the last twenty years we could only visit my grandparents on a yearly basis and visiting is nothing like staying with someone. So my whole life I have been apart from my favourite person. I have not been able to/could not meet her in the last 365 days either.

Anyway I am looking forward to meeting her in March. And time moves on, it was made to fly but with that humans age which means I should spend more time with her and I want to but Life! I do not even want to say this but here it is… Hard-pressed under responsibilities who really has the time to do things they like?

Intuitions.

Exhale: Tell us about a time when everything seemed to be going wrong — and then, suddenly, you knew it would be alright.


 

Things either go wrong or they go well, there is no middle ground in this. It is only in situations like, when you fall off of a branch but get stuck in another one just before hitting the ground, you would literally exhale and thank the almighty for saving your life.

So, yeah things do not go wrong to suddenly be perfectly fine. It is not a fairyland where in the last minute things change on their own – never! When you know you have messed up and it is out of hands, most probably it is! And it won’t set right on its own.

The only thing is that the repercussions might not be as bad as you had thought they would be. In this case only something going down might not have a great big fall after all. But I have no story to tell where I knew that a bad situation would turn out just okay.

Now, being optimistic is an entirely different thing but so is being in denial – one might be on any side. Having instincts and intuitions is amazing, they help in every situation, but I believe one should accept, adapt and act as only this practical approach would guarantee a smooth ride because knowing or having a hunch is not enough.

Solitude could be a choice.

Take Care: When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?


 

Woah, what a personal prompt!?

When it comes to being taken care of or receiving anything from anyone, it is a little difficult for me. Not that I have ego problems, it is just that I do not like bothering people with my issues. I do not really expect favours. Seriously though how do you even ask for help?

On the other hand, I love being there for someone, I like lending a hand once in a while (whenever I feel like it), I like to know and try to make sure that my peeps are comfortable and feeling fine. What is more better than knowing that your dear ones are doing great? So giving is okay but receiving… I am not so sure about that.

Yes, I am complex (LOL) yet straightforward. If you have a headache take a pill and just chill (rest!!) you do not need others to tell you that, do you? It happened recently, I felt like really exhausted by the end of each day doing same daily activities so I knew I was reaching the burnout stage and I did not let anyone around me even get a hint.

This, not letting others know, only leads to serious problems. People think you are fine and you are handed regular work while in reality you can not even focus at a single task at hand. It can get frustrating, it gets for me, and then comes the change in my attitude, I get all agitated and temperamental. Funny enough, that is how my family gets to know that I am not well. Not by words but by my behaviour.

I guess, I do not like putting it in words – “I need help!!” instead I just try to stay calm and strong until one fine day I go crazy at some random point in time and the ones who know me understand (my friend Tanya can relate), but others just think of me as what they get to see – crazy, it’s okay to be a little bit nuts though. Being with yourself teaches you to accept yourself and be comfortable in your own skin thus, solitude is not necessarily a bad thing, loneliness is. Being alone can be a choice.

So, asking for help??… ummm not happening any time soon.

On a serious note, being a soldier or asking for help might be a choice but staying aware of yourself is a necessity. One has to learn to take care of themselves first and then they can take care of the entire world (if they want to).

But do you know where the real good feels come from? They come from those little things that your friends or family do for you by accepting you with all your craziness and still (for some reason) stay with you. Those are the people who really matter and if you have them, believe me you do not really have to ask for help – it just arrives.

 

 

Being a patron saint…

A TRUE SAINT:

In 300 years, if you were to be named the patron saint of X, what would you like X to be? Places, activities, objects — all are fair game.


This prompt is being repeated, but the surprising thing is that, my older post from 2 June 2014 is automatically visible on the grid. Is the URL not supposed to change? Or do the daily prompt people just use some algorithm to shuffle and present a prompt to us at random?

I wrote it back then and nothing has changed in a year. It is about being a patron saint of feelings: https://insach21site.wordpress.com/2014/06/02/being-a-patron-saint/